When it comes to breastfeeding, I sometimes find myself wondering if I offend people. Not necessarily when I am nursing in public....but more so when I talk about it.
In my previous post, it seems I may have unwillingly upset some moms.
I know not all women choose to nurse their children, and to be honest I do get curious as to why. Is it because they are not educated on breastfeeding, too scared, or simply just do not want to do it? I can not change the last reason....but maybe I can help some women with the first two.
When Joslyn was born, we were told that we should just do formula and to give up breastfeeding. Was this by a family member or a stranger? No. This was from an over worked and perhaps lazy hospital Lactation Consultant. This woman spent maybe 5 minutes in my Mother and Baby room, before telling me to give up on my 2 day old baby ever learning how to breastfeed. Looking back, I think that was a turning point for me AND my husband. Here this woman was suppose to support us in breastfeeding OUR daughter, and she was doing the opposite.
Now we can not be the only parents who were told to give it up and I hope we were not the only people to ignore the poor advice. But I can see why some women WOULD listen and I can not blame them.
Was breastfeeding easy? NO. Did I tell my husband, out of exhaustion and frustration, "this is why people use formula!" YES! To be perfectly honest, Joslyn got two formula bottles each day for the first 2 months. So I can not judge someone for using formula. But most people think that it is breastmilk OR formula. The truth is, you CAN do both.
My goal for this blog (and even my Facebook page) was to spread the word about breastfeeding......and to share some tips along the way. I never want to make people feel uncomfortable or insulted because they choose not to or were not able to breastfeed. After all it is a choice. It saddens me to think that some people feel that they are being judged, simply for the fact they are not feeding their child the same way I feed mine. That is simply not the case.
I commend EVERYONE who has tried to breastfeed. If, for some reason, you were not able to, that does not make you a bad mother. Nor does it make you less of a woman.
If you decided not to breastfeed at all, that is your choice. I will not pass judgment, but a small part of me will wonder what made you decide against it. You can call it curiosity.
I do not want to offend anyone and I do not think I am better than the mom sitting next to me. I
do think breastmilk is best, but there is also research that I stand behind.
So to all moms....breastfeeding and formula feeding.......keep up the great work! Love your babies as they are such a miracle.
......and if you hear me talking about breastfeeding, please do not get offended. Breastfeeding is something I am proud of and take seriously.