So, we all know that breastfeeding is wonderful right? I do not think you would be reading this if you thought other wise. However, why are rates so low? Think about it..... how many times have you seen a stranger breastfeeding in public? Go ahead... I will wait.....
If you are like me.... you tend to keep an eye out to see if you can find a nummie lover enjoying some of Mummie's nummies. But I have only seen two people EVER nursing in public (and one of those times was a co worker on her lunch break!) So why is that? Why don't we see more mummies nursing in public? I would love to go up to a nursing mummie and say "CONGRATS on giving your nummie lover the best!" (I actually did that when I saw a mummie nursing in public, at Disney World last year.)
I do not feel it is up to me to make breastfeeding more the norm, nor do I feel the need to flaunt the fact that I breastfeed.. But I do feel it is my right (and my nummie lover's right) to breastfeed (in public) to show other mummies that it is okay. Not only other mummies...... but everyone else too. Even if it touches just one Mummie.... that mummie might touch someone else, that mummie might touch someone else..... and so on and so on. Pretty soon there will be a domino effect. Then BAM, breastfeeding could be the norm in public!
Picture it...... mummies sitting in an open field nursing their babies, a mummie sitting in a cafe sipping caffeine free coffee with her nummie lover enjoying her own "mummie latte". Can you picture it? Now picture all that with no one giving these mummies a hard time, no yucky looks, no side way glances. No hush hush remarks. Just head nods and smiles. Or heck nothing at all! Just other people going about their own routine, enjoying their own day.Sometimes I feel that NIP'ing (Nursing in Public) is not a big deal. Sort of along the lines, if I don't make it a big deal then no one else will. But other times, when I notice some one looking at me with a sort of soured expression (which has not happened very often... but has happened. I swear one older lady almost gave her self whiplash as she walked by me as I nursed Kit Kat at the mall. Her expression was none too approving.) it makes me feel self conscious at first. I will admit it, but that feeling only lasts for a few seconds and then the feeling of "Get Over it!" takes over. I have mentioned before that I do not have the best self esteem (knowing it is half the battle right?) but breastfeeding my girls has helped me dramatically. Even NIP'ing for the first time, with Pooker. I was so nervous! We were at a busy restaurant with family and she was only 16 weeks old. As we settled in (with her nursing blanket as a cover) I began to relax...... when she was done, I looked at my husband and whispered "we did it!" I felt as if I just won an award and ready to give my acceptance speech!
I know not all mummies feel comfortable nursing in public and I am not saying that you have to. Nor am I passing judgment on you if you do not NIP. Judging is not what is helping. You might feel the way you do, due to fear of judging remarks, perhaps you never saw a NIP'er, perhaps you are a closet nurser. But what ever you are.... you are a breastfeeding mummie........ you should feel proud.(but remember NIP'ing can take practice before you are 100% confident with yourself.
I just wish I would see more mummies giving their babies nummies in public, more often. I wish mummies would feel it is okay to NIP. I wish I could "head nod" at some mummie and show my support.
So the next time you are out and about........ try to take a look around. Is there a mummie sitting in the back of the room, in a corner, on a bench, in her car NIPing? Show her you support her and her choice. Perhaps even tell her about Mummies Nummies! (hehe... I would love that!!!!) Because here at Mummies Nummies.... no Mummie feels alone!!!!!!!
How about you mummies? What is your wish?