Friday, January 27, 2012

Foto Friday

"Foto" Friday is a play on phrase for Photo Friday. I take a million pictures each week, well maybe not a million...... but A LOT! So I thought it would be nice to share my favorite picture from the week. Each Friday, I will post one picture and each "Foto" will include a small caption. Some pictures will be related to breastfeeding, while others will not. I hope you enjoy "Foto Friday!" Do you like "Foto" Friday? Well come on over to our facebook page and our Facebook Group "Mummies Nummies Group" and join in! I love seeing your "Fotos."

Sisterly Love!


Thursday, January 26, 2012

Over Active Let Down (repost)

This is a repost from August 2011. Over Active Let Down can be a pretty big breastfeeding "problem" for Mummie and Nummie Lover. Please feel free to comment below if you have any tips that worked for you!

So we know that breastfeeding isn't always easy, and for most of us (me included) it does not come naturally. (A couple of my friends never had issues and I have to say I was JEALOUS!!!!!! hehe) But the best thing about breastfeeding problems is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Someone, somewhere out there has suffered through (or is suffering through) and most likely has some tips for you.
**(Enters stage left....Mummies Nummies!)**

One problem I had (because Lord knows I had my fair share) was Over Active Letdown (aka Forceful Let-down or Milk Ejection Reflex.) Over Active letdown means too much milk, too fast, too soon. Simple right? Seems harmless right? NOOOOOOO. So very the opposite. Overactive Let Down can cause many issues, with nummie lover and Mummie. Let's talk about the signs you could be suffering from "OAL." (Over Active Letdown)

If your Nummie Lover does any of the following (while nursing or shortly after)

*Gags, chokes, gulps, gasp,s coughs while nursing as though the milk is coming too fast
*Pulls off the breast while nursing
*Bites or clamps down on your breast while nursing. (Your Nummie Lover might be doing this in order to slow the flow)
*Makes a "clicking" sound while nursing
*Spits up often and or is gassy. (Over Active Letdown can highly irratate Reflux.)
*Refuses to nurse at times
*Does not seem at ease while nursing

Kelly Mom has a great article that helps explain Over Active Letdown. But I wanted to give you my personal experience and tips as well. Pooker had pretty bad Silent Reflux and Kit Kat had LOUD Reflux. With Both girls I had OAL.... but more so with Kit Kat. With Pooker I pumped two feedings a day so that helped with my OAL. But Kit Kat was not one for artificial nips... so pumping was out! I did however find a trick. I would hand express into a towel before I latched her on. I kept hand expressing until my flow slowed down and then I would latch her on. However I was tired of soaking a towel EACH feeding so I moved from a towel to a plastic cup. Plus I hated wasting the breastmilk I was expressing, so using the cup was better. I was able to drink the milk (warm nummies is always yummier) so nothing went to waste! I had to do this for a month or two before Kit Kat was able to handle my letdown.

I also used what I called "The Jacky Sit" position. I never nursed my girls with them laying down. For reflux babies... that is a big no no. It is better for them to be as upright as possible, while nursing, to help "encourage" the nummies to stay down. The same goes for OAL. Being upright helps the little Nummie Lovers to swallow the volcanic like flow of breastmilk coming at them. The Jacky Sit position is just that...... a sitting position. Have your little nummie lover sitting as much as possible on your lap while you nurse. (You can change the name of the position if you like.... go ahead, I give you permission!)

It will take some time (took two months for me) to control your Over Active Letdown..... but if you go with the flow (PUN INTENDED) and stick it out your flow and your nummie lover will be best friends. I mean think about it... would you like a fire hose put in your mouth and being turned on? Scary huh? Gives me "the wiggle shakes" just thinking about it!

Hang in there!

Tuesday, January 24, 2012

Breastfeeding from the Mouth of Babes

Mental image time. Kit Kat and daddy were playing together over the weekend. Kit Kat was running into her daddy, attempting to knock him down. (A 23 pound 26 month old trying to knock down her daddy.... yeah she thinks she is way bigger than she really is. She couldn't even knock down a feather on a table!) Daddy scooped her up (think "the lift" on the  movie Dirty Dancing... ohhhhh Partick Swayze...RIP)

Kit Kat then says "Put me down daddy!" As soon as she was put down, Kit Kat lifted her shirt and says "Daddy you want to eat me?"

I about dropped what I was holding (though I can't remember what I was holding now) and about died! Did she really say that?! We were rolling with laughter!  Daddy could hardly get the words out "no, KK I don't." due to his laughter. She simply pulled her shirt back down and said "okay" and walked away!

Ohhhh the things they say! hehe


Friday, January 20, 2012

Hey Girl Breastfeeding

Okay, I came across this AWESOME post from Pregnant Chicken and I was DYING!!! O.H. M.Y. G.O.S.H!!! I was rolling and I am NOT even pregnant! How can you not appreciate the AWESOMENESS of that post?!! SOOOOOOO I got to thinking... (dangerous I know!) and I contacted Pregnant Chicken. I asked her if she minded if I could "steal" her idea and run away with it. Oh I am so happy she said "YES!"

So here you go, my breastfeeding (past, present and future) Mummies...... a spin of of the Original Porn for Pregnant Ladies.... may I introduce "Hey Girl" for Breastfeeding Mummies..............

Thank you to the LOVERLY gentlemen above. Couldn't have done this without you.


Breastfeeding foto Friday

"Foto" Friday is a play on phrase for Photo Friday. I take a million pictures each week, well maybe not a million...... but A LOT! So I thought it would be nice to share my favorite picture from the week. Each Friday, I will post one picture and each "Foto" will include a small caption. Some pictures will be related to breastfeeding, while others will not. I hope you enjoy "Foto Friday!" Do you like "Foto" Friday? Well come on over to our facebook page and our Facebook Group "Mummies Nummies Group" and join in! I love seeing your "Fotos."

Today's Foto Friday is a bit different. Today's Foto is not one of me, Kit Kat or even Pooker.... It is from one of our Mummies in our closed facebook group (Mummies Nummies.) Below are two Fotos from Danielle.......and her caption.

"These pictures were taken of me and my precious 7 month old nummie lover by my amazing husband, while our three and four year old monsters (lol) ran around behind him. It was nothing short of a perfect family day on the Padre Island National Seashore! We took these pictures for the amazing Mummie's Nummies group, for the mummies who have truly found a special place in my heart! After I posted these pictures on Mummies Nummies group, Mummie herself asked me to write a guest post about the pictures and how they came about. So I sat at my table for almost a hour not able to find the words... How do you put into words something as precious as breastfeeding? How do you put into words the love that you have for women you've never actually met? I still don't have the words so I'll just let these amazing pictures speak for themselves... A perfect moment between a mummie and baby and one perfect word that will forever be apart of my family and my heart! A word that means so much more then just milk... NUMMIES ...."

**Okay... so besides the crazy amount of tears Danielle made me shed.... I am so humbly touched by everything this post has. From her sweet words describing the fotos (GOSH and Me!), to the amazing pictures of her NIP'ing on the beach, the (still amazing to me) way she thought of Mummie's Nummies for this Foto, the hand written "Nummies" in the sand,  and the "I Love...." shirt she is wearing that seems to be aimed to her Nummie Lover." These two pictures are just about the most amazingly inspiring photos I have seen. Thank you Danielle..... Thank you so much.

Humbly yours,


Wednesday, January 18, 2012

Breastfeeding thoughts

As you know, Kit Kat is two (26 months to be exact.) So I have had a LONG time to contemplate breastfeeding. I will be honest and say that I think about breastfeeding EVERY day, sometimes it might be humorous thoughts, other times serious thoughts and of course the random breastfeeding thought. I guess when you have a nummie lover who is ALWAYS thinking about the Nummies.... it kinda makes sense that the Nummie Maker would ALWAYS think about them too.

So here is what I have thought about recently...

Have you ever thought what your Nummie Lover imagined what breastmilk really was? I mean really.... sometimes when Kit Kat is nursing she will have different "sucking" techniques. Some are more like "chomping"' others are more like a long "slurping."

Out of the blue.... she was "chomping" one day and the image of her eating a big sloppy, wide mouth cheeseburger popped in my head. You know the one requires you to use BOTH hands and you can barely get your mouth opened wide enough.
(yupp.. that would be the one!) 
p.s. darn now I want a cheeseburger!

Then she has these long lasting, savory kind of sucks. The kind that I instantly think thick, yummy MILK SHAKE!!! The kind of milkshake that makes you slurp so hard that your face resembles a fish. The kind of milkshake SO thick, you realize that after 5 minutes of constantly "slurping" you've only managed to drink an inch!

(Oh yeah! That one!!!)
p.p.s. Well GREAT now I want a milkshake!

Sometimes, Kit Kat will be so "effective" in her technique that when she is done I look down and freak out! It takes me a few moments to realize what I am seeing is ME and not some freakish nightmare! Imagine Madonna in her "Like a Virgin" days


Think breast milk filled torpedo.
No really! It really is insane how far stretched this little Nummie Lover can make my nips! I am talking freakishly LONG! Like Side Show Circus LONG! I could very well be the newest side show attraction... in between the "hairiest lady" and the "two headed cow!" Just call me Torpedo Nips! ( I am not just talking about "hey the turkey is done" it is more like "hey the Condor is done!")

So lets see....with the cheeseburger, milkshake, Madonna coned bra, torpedo'ish, Condor images.... I have come to realize.... I might need to read a book while Kit Kat is nursing. It seems my imagination has completely run off and joined the circus.

Circus trip anyone?


Tuesday, January 17, 2012

Breastmilk Imbalance

We have all heard it before. The ol' cliche of breastmilk. How it is the perfect mixture of nutrition. Now........ as true as that is...... sometimes, just sometimes, your liquid gold may not be so perfectly "mixed." Shocker right?! I know I was thrown through a (breastmilk) loop when I found this out. You see, when Pooker (my oldest, former Nummie Lover) was 5 months old I noticed some (errrrr) "odd" poop in her diaper. Now she was a pretty sick little Nummie Lover. She had pretty bad Silent Reflux and breath apnea, weighed only 12 lbs at 5 months (which put her below 3% for her weight and she was labeled "poor weight gain." To be honest she was not even on the whole weight chart...... even the breastfeeding chart.) So when I noticed this "new" poopy development..... I was confused. Let me explain..... Pooker's poops began to remind me of a bright green foamy latte! (NO JOKE!) I even used that description to her G.I doctor and he was at a loss as well. Her poops were nothing but a bright green foam... no really! 

Think...... latte foam art
Yeah... see the white imagine a diaper full of bright green foam........ yupp that is what Pooker's poopy diapers looked like.

So I decided to do some investigating of my own. Since her G.I. doctor said he was clueless....after he giggled over the phone... he thought I was kidding, bless his heart! I came to a term called "Foremilk/Hindmilk Imbalance."

Foremilk is the thinner milk the baby gets first, which has a lower fat content and hindmilk is the high-fat, creamier milk that follows. When there is an imbalance the Nummie Lover gets more of the foremilk and less of the hindmilk. Think of it as having the desert before the meal. The foremilk is the sugary desert and the hindmilk is the calorie bursting cheeseburger.

When Pooker was nursing she was getting TOO much foremilk and not enough hindmilk.... which caused her poop to be green and foamy. This also was the reason for her "poor weight gain."

BUT what the heck causes this imbalance?

For us, I didn't offer her the last side she nursed from when it came time to her next feeding. This action did not agree with my nummie makers and made them so out of whack. Doing this for 5 months took a toll on my breastmilk and caused an imbalance. 

How can you tell if you have an imbalance? Well you don't have to search the poopy diapers. If you pump, take a look at the fatty layer on the top. (Let the expressed milk sit in the refrigerator for a while. This way the milk will "relax" and you will see the foremilk/hindmilk separate.)  You should notice a layer on top (that is the hindmilk.... the fatty part) if that layer is small (as in VERY thin) then you most likely have an imbalance. 
Here are some other signs you can look out for:

Green frothy explosive stools (check!)
 Baby spits up a lot
 Colic symptoms (fussiness)
 Baby wanting to breastfeed all the time…not becoming satisfied
 Gassiness (check!!)
 Blood in stools
 Slow weight gain (triple check!!!)
 Diaper rash due to acidic stools
Baby has a bowel movement immediately after feedings (Oh yeah!!! This one too!)

Oh but not to worry, Mummies..... there is nothing wrong with you. I have some great news! There are ways to correct it! WAHOOOO!

For us, I changed the way she nursed. She would still take both sides, but I made one small change. She would begin on the side she finished! (AHHHHH light bulb went off in my head!) I HAD heard of that before... bit sill me thought "why would it matter?" DUH! First time Mummie... it DOES matter! hehe. Now it took a month or two to correct my imbalance.... but Pooker's poops did go back to normal and my latte cravings ended! (KIDDING about the cravings! EWWW After seeing latte looking green poop.. a latte never looked the same again!)

Here are some other ways you can help fix the imbalance:

*To prevent this, try to breastfeed only from one breast with each breastfeeding session. If the other breast becomes a bit engorged, mom can just express some of the milk until her breast feels less full and tight. This is also known as "Block Feeding."
*If you have an oversupply of breast milk she can pump some of the breastmilk before breastfeeding to ensure that baby receives the hindmilk as well as foremilk.
*To remedy the imbalance breastfeed from each side for a separate 12 to 24 hours. (To prevent engorgement you can express some milk)

Hope this helps!!! 


Friday, January 13, 2012

Foto Friday

"Foto" Friday is a play on phrase for Photo Friday. I take a million pictures each week, well maybe not a million...... but A LOT! So I thought it would be nice to share my favorite picture from the week. Each Friday, I will post one picture and each "Foto" will include a small caption. Some pictures will be related to breastfeeding, while others will not. I hope you enjoy "Foto Friday!" Do you like "Foto" Friday? Well come on over to our facebook page and our Facebook Group "Mummies Nummies Group" and join in! I love seeing your "Fotos."

Here are the girls and I as we were leaving for our Girls Only Free Starbucks Taste Testing! It was our first trip to Starbucks so it was kinda special! We also got to enjoy a Blueberry muffin!


Thursday, January 12, 2012

Study finds breastfed babies to be "more challenging"

Yup. They sure 'nough went there! Well some "genius'" decided to put together a "study" and once again it is breastmilk vs formula. (When will this battle stop? I mean really? Do people STILL need to waste their time and energy on this topic? Can't we all just realize that breastmilk is best for MOST babies....and leave it at that? I mean, honestly, why do we have to read articles that fuel the "I'm better than you are" mummie battle?! I for one am sick of this battle and would be happy to see it drowned in some Nummies.... but enough about that... back to the "study.")

SO.... here is some  background for you....This "study" (like how I am using quotation marks for the word "study?" Yeah I thought you would.) was published in the online journal, Public Library of Science ONE. The "research team" (again with the quotation marks!)
consisted of members from the Medical Research Council, Cambridge, University of Cambridge, University College London and University Paris-Sud, France. It was funded by Medical Research Council (MRC) along with some other "un-released or hard to find" money pockets.

This is how it went down:

The researchers followed 316 infants born between 2006 and 2009 in Cambridge (171 boys and 145 girls.) The babies ranged from exclusively breastfed (total amount 137 babies), mixed feedings, both breast milk and formula (91 total)  and exclusively formula (88 total.) At the age of 3 months, the mothers were given a 191 questionnaire assessment, with questions on the  “three major dimensions” of infant temperament :

*Surgency/extroversion, which means cheerfulness or sociability: higher scores are seen in infants with high activity levels, impulsivity and positive response to highly stimulating situations.
*Negative affectivity: higher scores indicate higher distress or irritability and emotional instability.
*Orienting/regulation: higher scores indicate greater ability to be soothed easily and to regulate their own emotions.

The questions included how much babies smiled or laughed during play, how often babies cooed, how much distress they showed when being washed or changed, how easily they were to soothe, and how much pleasure they expressed at being hugged.

These are their "findings:"

The study  found that compared to formula-fed babies, exclusively breastfed and mixed-fed babies had:

*lower impulsivity and lower positive responses to stimulation (overall surgency/extraversion score 4.3 in formula-fed and 4.0 in both mixed-fed and breastfed groups)
*lower ability to regulate their own emotions (overall orienting/regulation score 5.1 in formula-fed and 4.9 in both mixed-fed and breastfed groups)
*higher emotional instability (overall negative affectivity score 2.8 in formula-fed and 3.0 in both mixed-fed and breastfed groups)

They concluded that "breastfeeding may be demanding for both mothers and babies but the findings should not be taken to discourage mothers from breastfeeding. Mothers should be given more realistic expectations about infant temperament and more support to cope with the difficult aspects of breastfeeding."

Lead researcher Dr Ken Ong, a pediatrician from the MRC Epidemiology Unit in Cambridge, said their findings do not contradict the "overwhelming body of evidence supporting breastfeeding as the normal and most healthy form of infant nutrition". He also said "Bottle-fed babies may appear more content, but research suggests that these infants may be over-nourished and gain weight too quickly. Our findings are essentially similar to other stages of life; people often find that eating is comforting."

Now let me be me...... while I am pretty bothered that they will say that nummie lovers are "more challenging" than formula fed babies.... ('Cause I think that is just a horrible thing to say and I do not agree with it) they did say that they believe that formula fed babies tend to be "over-nourished (aka over fed) and gain weight too "quickly" (aka reason there is a formula fed growth chart and a breastfed growth chart.) But really? As much as they state that breastmilk is "normal and most healthy form of infant nutrition" the research kinda has a "slap in the face" reaction to breastfeeding. Look... we all know breastfeeding isn't easy.... but to say that the babies who are breastfed are less happy, less emotionally stable, not able to regulate their emotions, and are more challenging is just wrong. 

I know both of my girls are pretty happy, very emotionally stable and really happy. Now.... if they were away from Mommy too long, or could not even see Mommy.... then well, yeah, they were UNSTABLE! I mean sheesh I was their SOLE source of EVERYTHING! Who wouldn't be unstable if their world was gone?

So MY conclusion is this: Mummie's Nummies is still the best (not just the blog... oh come on I HAD to!) but feed your baby the way you are able to, for as long as you are able to. Love your wee little Nummie Lover with everything you have. Chances are your Nummie Lover will be stable....... no matter what.

You know you all rock.... so give yourself a breast pump (play on to fist pump!)


Tuesday, January 10, 2012

High Lipase levels in breastmilk

Do you find your pumped breastmilk to "sour" prematurely? Is your frozen breastmilk a little rank, taste like a dirty coin or even soap? You might have high levels of Lipase in your Nummies. I came to realize a bit of a shocker....... I will explain that in a bit.

One of our Mummies, from our closed Facebook Group, asked if anyone knew why her milk was seeming to spoil prematurely. She was storing her nummies correctly but still found something was "off." She asked me if I knew anything about Lipase Enzymes.... and well..... I did not. So I promised her I would do some research! (Here I am doing the research!)

Le Leche League  says:"Sometimes thawed milk may smell or taste soapy. This is due to the breakdown of milk fats. The milk is safe and most babies will still drink it. If there is a rancid smell from high lipase (enzyme that breaks down milk fats) activity when the milk has been chilled or frozen, the milk can be heated to scalding (bubbles around the edges, not boiling) after expression, then quickly cooled and frozen. This deactivates the lipase enzyme. Scalded milk is still a healthier choice than commercial infant formula."

There also might be a connection with tap water and high levels of Lipase. Tap water can contain metal ions like Magnesium, Calcium and Manganese. These metallic ions can activate the Enzymes in your breastmilk..... therefor creating higher levels of Lipase. If you use your tap water to rinse out your pump equipment.......then that might be a cause for the higher levels. You could wash your pump equipment, sippy cups, bottles and bottle nipples (anything that comes in contact with breastmilk) with distilled water and phosphate free soap. This will not eliminate the problem.... as your breastmilk already has higher levels of Lipase.....  but it might help. 

So here is the SHOCKER! I never knew this... but I had this when I pumped with Pooker! My frozen milk (although did not have a bad smell) was horribly metallic in flavor. Pooker did not care at all (she got two pumped bottles a day to help with her silent reflux) so I thought nothing of it. Now with Kit Kat ... she never took to a bottle. She actually hated the things (seriously.. hated them with a passion!) So I only pumped a few times with her, and never got a chance to have a stocked supply. So I do not know if it was high in Lipase or not.  Hummmmmm the things you learn!!!!!!!


Monday, January 9, 2012

Starting Solids **REPOST**

Below is a post I wrote back in September 2011. There is always questions regarding Nummie Lover's first solid foods: When is it the right time, what to start off with, how often?

There has been A TON of talk on our facebook page about starting solid foods; when to offer them and how often. Starting your nummie lover on solid foods is a huge milestone! It means your nummie lover is growing up and branching out to try new things. BUT there are so many different ways to handle the introduction to solids. I wrote a post a while back on introducing introducing solid foods and offered up what we did. But I thought it was worth posting about again.

There are a few reasons why MANY organizations (Like The World Health Organization) say to wait until 6 months of age before offering any food other than breastmilk. has a great article that I found very helpful.
Here are just a few reasons:
*Delaying solids gives baby greater protection from illness.
*Delaying solids gives baby's digestive system time to mature.
*Delaying solids decreases the risk of food allergies.
*Delaying solids helps to protect baby from iron-deficiency anemia.
*Delaying solids helps mom to maintain her milk supply.

We waited 7 months with Pooker and 6.5 months with Kit Kat, before embarking on the solid food journey. We took it once slow step at a time, introducing a new food every week or two. We used brown rice cereal only to thicken up the homemade baby food when it was too watery. (Both of my girls liked CHUNKY food.)

A popular mistake people make is thinking that baby cereal will "fatten" their nummie lover up. Honestly baby cereal contains no more health benefit than "normal" food. More and more doctors are even saying to stay away from "White" Baby Cereal. Dr. Greene has started "The White Out" Campaign, stating that offering your nummie lover "white" baby cereal is like offering them "a spoonful of sugar." So if your mother in law, mother, or grandmother advises you to give your Nummie Lover baby cereal alone..... you can tell her Mummie says you don't have to! hehe.
When you decide it is time for your Nummie Lover to begin the solid food journey, ALWAYS keep in mind that your breastmilk should always be the number one source of nutrition, for the first 12 months. Keeping that in mind..... it is a good idea to offer solid food FOLLOWING a nursing session. Why? Simple. If your Nummie Lover fills up on Mummie's Nummies then he/she will not be so apt to fill up on solid foods. BUT if you offer solid food BEFORE nursing..... your precious Nummie Lover might be too full to get his/her "fill" of the good stuff (your stuff.) Which could result in a drop in supply and perhaps drying up. (Nobody wants to see a Mummie go through premature drying up!)
I always offered solid food within an hour after nursing. (Which is probably why we all eat lunch at 11 am in my house! hehe)
Now when it comes to "how much to offer".... that is when your little Nummie Lover decides. Every baby is different and MANY factors determine how much each baby will eat. I used A TON! They have some great tips, information and recipes for your little one. I always used an ice cube tray. I ice cube of baby food was a serving..... eventually I would give 1 ice cube of a veggie and mix it with one ice cube of a fruit.

There is so much information out there, in this big wide world we live in. So it can be confusing. Just remember to do your research (with places you trust) and do what you feel is best for your Nummie Lover. After all..... you are already giving your baby the best!



Thursday, January 5, 2012

Support with Integrity

Okay Mummies, I think (hope) you know my stance on breastfeeding, breastfeeding support and judgment. I strive to not judge a Mummie who tries to breastfeed, supplements with formula or is unsuccessful in meeting her breastfeeding goals. I don't think it is fair to judge a Mummie, as I have only walked in my shoes. Yes..... my shoes have been caked in thousand pound mud with a breastpump that called  me names. But here is my secret, I am stubborn. Stubborn as an independent Nummie Lover who wants to dress herself, with NO help from Mummie, even as she is screaming "I CAN'T DO IT!!!!!" Perhaps that is why I have battled on, with breastfeeding, the way that I have.

I guess that is why I was SO excited when I got a very special email from Head Mama herself, from Earth Mama Angel Baby. Last week she sent out a special email with a sneak peak at Earth Mama Angel Baby's newest "baby." They have created a breastfeeding Pledge called "Support with Integrity: Facilitating Judgment-Free Breastfeeding." I was instantly in LOVE! FINALLY someone else is more into the judgment free zone! It does not matter how, when, or even where you breastfeed. As long as you support breastfeeding.... that is ALL that matters! Heck, it just about brought a tear to my eye.

I (enter the sound of a SQUEAL here) was the 8th person to sign it! Never mind the fact Head Mama deemed me a "fellow Bosom Buddy" but she ranked me (little ol' ME!) as one of the breastfeeding supporters on her list! (enter SQUEAL again.) I about leaked Nummies all over myself!

This is where you, my awesome Mummies, come in. I am asking you to please sign the pledge. I am PROUDLY sporting the pledge banner on the blog, where I hope it reminds me and everyone just how IMPORTANT it is to support each other in a non judgmental way. Now of course I would never lead you astray.... So here are the important facts about this pledge:

Take the pledge to agree to stand together for breastfeeding success and to support all mamas who desire to breastfeed, no matter what technique, position, frequency, equipment, duration or organization she chooses.

 I PLEDGE to use my energy to help defuse dogmatic battles about what technique, position, frequency, equipment, duration or organization a woman chooses for breastfeeding. I affirm that my time is best spent directing my positive, encouraging support toward helping mamas successfully breastfeed.

• I PLEDGE to keep my ego in check, while treating other breastfeeding boosters, lactation facilitators, breastfeeding organizations, and mothers respectfully, knowing that we're all working toward the common goal of providing breast milk for babies. I also welcome respectful disagreement with my own opinions and accept that disruptive disagreement is counter to the goal of helping mamas feed their babies.

• I PLEDGE to agree that there are many right ways to breastfeed a baby. A breastfeeding mother should not feel pressure or judgment to perform a specific way. There isn't a "wrong way" as long as the breast milk is flowin' and the baby is growin'.

By displaying the Support with Integrity badge and signing the pledge, I agree to hold hands and help mamas get what they need to make breastfeeding work for them, no matter how they choose to do it. If a mama and baby are making it work, I'll stand and cheer them on from the sidelines.

So what say you? Will you sign the pledge? Will you do it for me, you, and every Mummie out there? Will you raise your hand and say "I support you!" Will you cheer Mummies on like it they just won the Breastfeeding Super Bowl? If yes... please come back and comment. I would be so honored knowing how many Mummies have signed the pledge!


Monday, January 2, 2012

Breastfeeding Support **Repost**

There are a few things that make me sad (okay well more than a few) and a few things that make me want to jump into a protective crouch and growl (Oh OKAY! More than a few things.) I came across one of these "things" last week and I felt myself BOTH saddened and growling. I will explain why I am re posting this blog post a little later....

It all started fairly "innocent" with the photo below, posted on a Breastfeeding Support Facebok page.

I will admit... I giggled. The thought of "producing" formula the way we produce Nummies.... it is funny. BUT then the comments began to ride the  "non supportive train."

You see, one of our Mummies (an AWESOME Mummie who I have texted back and forth with MANY times, in hopes to help her continue to reach her goal) commented this:

"I understand what you are trying to do here BUT it kinda pokes fun at those of us who really don't produce enough milk for our babies."

I instantly felt for her. You see, her Nummie Lover (just shy of 9 months) decided he was done with his Nummies. After almost 8 months of supply issues and previous Nummie Lover's not lasting as long as this Mummie had hoped.... this was very upsetting. This Mummie did ALL she could, but she still felt that her body had failed her once again. (Though this is not the case... she did a FANTABULOUS job and should be incredibly proud of her achievements.

But this is where the post gets a bit....errr....ummm.... "protective crouch" worthy.
Below are the comments from other Mummies (not My Mummies.... but other breastfeeding ladies):

"Not the best. We shouldn't make this a bf vs ff thing." (THANK YOU to this Mummie! That is a very supportive response. The ones below.... not so much.)

"I thnk those that truly cant prodce enough milk should be grown up enough to not be offended. Because the.reality is "i didnt have enough milk" xcuse is worn out and really over.used. Most women that say.that .... Do so before their milk even comes in. And most r not producing enough milk a breastfeeding management issue....nothing rally preventng them from producing enough milk. Women that truly cant produce enough should be.offended w its over use excuse and celebrate this tongue in cheeck button."

"most women who claim (no, not all, but yes most) who claim they cant and dont produce enough milk is simply because they didnt put the true effort into it, they didnt have enough support, and were uneducated on the matter, and listen greedy misinformed dr's..... as well as supplementing and NOT nursing on demand instead following a schedule.... I too get extremely tired of the whole i cant produce enough milk excuse and ive honestly known several women personally who after being taught correctly realized that that wanst the case after all, it was poor breastfeeding management as said in the above comment. for all the women nowadays who cant "produce enough" milk, i'll tell ya what..... if that had of been the case 150 years agos well then wet nurses wouldve been the top number one job for women those days and it wasnt simply said..... much love to all you women out there who truelly do have this issue!! ♥ but tisk tisk to all those who use it as an excuse!! just saying"

 "the more you nurse WITHOUT supplementing, the more ya make.... supply and demand"

Below is my response. (Okay pardon the "Last Nummie Session" and the "Rock your Nipples Off" comment.... like I said "crouch position worthy.")

"okay I read them all. What a load of crap. You did all you could... and even if you didn't (which I know you did) it is not our place to judge anyone. If we are truly breastfeeding supporters, then we would try to help in any way we can without passing judgement.We would support the Mummie in her struggles without making her feel bad. Do some women say they couldn't bf (without really trying)? Sure I am sure they do. (you **Name withheld** are not one of those Mummies.) But it really does not matter in the end. All we can do is get the word out, get the support out there as well as the education and hope for the best. This whole "you didnt try hard enough" crap is bad mojo. And I will not stand for one of my Mummies being attacked. You can bet your last Nummie Session I will post on that post as well. Hugs to all of "my" Mummies (I call you all that... "My Mummies") you all rock your little nipples out and I support you!!!!!   My readers (aka my Mummies) know I support them in every way. If they need help I do what I can, if they need a shoulder to cry on.... they have one. If they have to supplement then I help them with that as well. If a Nummie Lover decided at 9 months they are "done" then it was their choice. It is awesome that (Name withe held)  gave it another go when her previous babies (aka Nummie Lovers) and her had horrible breastfeeding experiences. The fact that she wanted to try again should be congratulated. She went longer with her son than her first two daughters and that is a huge milestone."

This is where the blog post comes in.  We need to "check" ourselves every once in a while, when it comes to what we say and just how we say it. Telling a Mummie that supplementing is "bad" probably isn't the best thing in the world to say. Telling them that "low supply" issues are rare is a good tid bit of info..... but when this Mummie has had two previous Nummie Lovers with the same supply issue.... maybe that isn't the right thing to say. All Mummies are not created equally, so therefor all advice isn't either. So ALAS, here is my Breastfeeding Support post that I wanted to re-share with you. 

You all (My Mummies) have a special place in my heart, yes in the back of the room with your finger silently pointing to yourself.... YOU! And I feel a bit protective when I know one of you is being treated unfairly. Call it "Mummie Bear" Syndrome or what ever you would like. I just plain don't like it. 

Hugs to you!

**Originally posted on December 7, 2011**
.......and I do not mean a good breastfeeding support bra!

I have had some fun with my posts recently.... because.... well it is fun! We all need some fun.... it helps make the non fun times a bit easier to swallow (yes... pun intended "swallow".) **see... FUN!**

But I want to take a minute and be a bit serious.

When I started Mummie's Nummies..... my goal was to spread support to as many Mummies as I could reach. But sometimes...... all support is not treated equally. It is OOOOOOBER important to get the correct support to as many Mummies as possible. If the wrong kind of "support" is given, then it is not really support. It might as well be a negative comment from a passerby, or a "death to you for NIP'ing"  look from a stranger.

If you are going to give support, that comes with a warning...... it might not be the best support. I recently heard someone give "advice" and warned that what they were about to say might make people angry. They continued to tell people not to claim to be a victim (if they could not breastfeed) because they can breastfeed.

Breastfeeding (in MOST cases) is not easy. Lord knows I have been racked through the breastfeeding leaves MANY times with BOTH of my girls. Some people even told me that I should just stop. That it could be easier (for me) if I did. Now, me being the stubborn Mummie that I am...... I did not give up. I soldiered on. I know (with all of my heart) that these people (who offered this "advice") did so in order to help me. I do not fault them in any way. I actually believe that they helped me continue on....that's me being stubborn again.

But it is the comments that seem to make a Mummie, who struggled with breastfeeding, feel guilty about stopping that upset me.

As natural as breastfeeding is, as pro-breastfeeding as I AM...... not every Mummie can do it. Not every Mummie has the support they need when times get tough. Bad/negative support is no support at all.

Some Mummies have supply issues, health issues, other medical issues.... some Nummie Lovers have health and medical issues...... not every one can do it. I know that. Just because some one is unable to breastfeed does not make them a bad person. It does not mean that they love their baby any less. It most certainly does not make them a bad parent.

To make someone feel guilty or to attack them is not the way to bring positive support to breastfeeding. It is not going to make the Mummie turn around and say "Yeah, you know what you are right! I am a horrible person for not breastfeeding. I am horrible for not giving my baby the best I can. Man I am a horrible person!" No.... it will only make them not listen to anything you have to say, and it might even give them a negative view (on breastfeeding) if they were faced with the chance again. What good is that?

I do not feel that all non successful breastfeeding Mummies play any victim card. I also think that most of these Mummies do not sit back and dwell on it.  They fed their babies to the best of their ability. It is not up to us (pro breastfeeding Mummies) to judge them. All we can do is offer the (correct) kind of support and aid them in any (positive and non judgmental) way we can.

If we do that and they either choose not to breastfeed or feel they are unable to continue...... we gave it our best shot.

Don't make anyone feel guilty. Don't judge a Mummie for either "giving up" or for choosing another way. That Mummie still needs support. And "NO Mummie should be left behind."

**Okay.... I am done. You may now resume your web surfing!**