Bottom line... Was it a bad idea to have sex at 14? Yes. Is it sad that she got pregnant? Yes. Do we need to rip her and insult her because she is a 15 year old mom? No. Should we belittle her and insult her own mother? No. It happened, she knows it was an error on her part. There is nothing that can be done about it now. Stop being nasty judgmental weiners (yes PUN), get off of your high horses and move on. Thank you. ~Mummie
Reading a story is great, but sometimes the story leaves you wanting more. This story did that to me. I found myself wanting to know more about this new mom and her journey. I was lucky enough to get a chance to interview Jaielyn and I wanted to share that interview with you.
Mummie's Nummies: Tell us a little about yourself and your son.
Jaielyn: I became pregnant with my son, Adrian, when I made the foolish mistake of not waiting at the age of 14. But gave birth to him at the age of 15. I love my son so much, it's amazing how much love your baby can pull from you.
Mummie's Nummies: When did you decide you wanted to breastfeed?
Jaielyn: I decided I wanted to breastfeed right away. It's the most natural and healthy thing I knew I could do. There was a story I heard that some insect parts made their way into some formula a while back and the babies were throwing up. I just couldn't allow something like that to happen to my boy, if it ever happened again. Hearing that was my deal breaker.
Mummie's Nummies: What kind of support circle do you have around you?
Jaielyn: The support circle I had before all this happened was my mother and the D.A.P.I. Now i have all these breastfeeding support groups wanting to help me out. Some have even sent me stuff for when the school provides me a breastfeeding room.
Mummie's Nummies: Please tell us what happened. How did this story begin?
Jaielyn: It all started when I went up to the D.A.P.I (Delaware Adolescent Program)to finish my midterms and get transferred back to my school. We were getting me transferred back and they asked if I had any questions. I asked if I would be able to pump my milk at the Lake Forest High School during the day and they said they would have to get back to us on that. Later that day we received a call from the school nurse.
Mummie's Nummies: Can you tell us what the school nurse said? (The school nurse spoke to Jaielyn's mom.. so this part of the interview comes from Jaielyn's Mom, Betty.)
Betty: She said she understands my daughter would like to pump milk during the school day, but that they will not be able to make accommodations for her. I said " why can't she pump in the bathroom?" She said " electric breast pumps are loud and would create unwanted attention from her peers." I said "what about your bathroom, or the wellness center bathroom?" She said " our rooms are too small and the bathrooms are for sick kids who need to throw up. Where do you suggest they throw up, on my floor, or in the sink?" I said " She has a manual pump that she can use, so she shouldn't attract any attention." She then replied " how do we know when she leaves to pump milk, she will be doing as she says? She may need to be supervised and it is time consuming, how will she get enough information from the teachers about assignments given?" I said " correct me if I'm wrong, but it seems as if there are many issues you all have with Jaielyn pumping milk at school. There's no room, then it will attract unwanted attention from her peers, it's time consuming, you don't know if she can be trusted to do what she's supposed to do, and then you can't store the milk." She then said " fine she can pump in the girls bathroom, but she'll need someone to pick the milk up, or bring something to store it in." I said "that's fine." She said "well I'll have to check with the school administrators and the superintendent and give you a call back on Monday." That was the end of that conversation.
Mummie's Nummies: Please tell me Jaielyn will NOT be pumping in the girl's restroom. For future references, breastfeeding or pumping in ANY bathroom is not a proper place to do either. We highly recommend finding another location to feed or pump.
Jaielyn: I will not be pumping in a bathroom. They will allow me to pump in the nurses room until a room can be provided for me and I believe someone is trying to provide me with a small dorm size storage fridge.
Mummie's Nummies: What kind of feedback have you come across, since your story has come out?
So many people came forward, wanting to help with blogs and Facebook pages, support groups, and anything that they thought would help me be able to pump in school. They flooded phone lines and emails. It was just amazing! We had so many people standing up for the right to breastfeed/ pump milk, we actually thought we had a fighting chance!
(Sweet little Adrian)
Jaielyn returns to school TOMORROW with a temporary location to pump in and a team of supporters behind her. Not only do you have a "fighting chance"Jaielyn, you have made a HUGE impact on many lives. You have spread the word about the right to breastfeed, the right to pump and the right to do what is RIGHT.
Mummie's Nummies: Thank you both, Jaielyn and Betty, for taking the time to answer my questions.
Good luck at your first day back and know you are not alone! Rock Your Journey Jaielyn! Rock it with everything You have!
Jaielyn: Thanks for getting the story and awareness out.
I will update as soon as I can... keep this Mummie in your thoughts!